Third Door

Alex & Sam’s sample report

Meet Alex and Sam, a fictional couple who answered the full questionnaire.

We wrote this sample to show what a report includes. Your own report uses AI to reflect on your answers and notes. Nothing you do on this page is saved. Includes questions about sex and boundaries.

About Alex and Sam

Alex and Sam are fictional adults, married for eight years with one school-age child. Each answered 31 questions, including the optional parenting questions, and added five notes. They didn’t choose the optional questions about agreements involving other partners. We wrote this sample to show how a complete report works; it wasn’t generated live by AI.

Two perspectives. One picture.

What your answers show.

Here’s where you chose the same answers, where your experiences differ, and what might help you understand each other. The explanations are suggestions, not facts about either of you.

Your alignment, at a glance

50% means you chose the same answer on half of the questions we could compare. It isn’t a score for your relationship. Choose a topic to read more.

Connection & care50%matching

A mix of same and different

Same answer on 2 of 4 questions

Disagreements & repair25%matching

Mostly different answers

Same answer on 1 of 4 questions

Everyday life & energy50%matching

A mix of same and different

Same answer on 3 of 6 questions

One match is a worry or difficulty you both reported.

Money & security50%matching

A mix of same and different

Same answer on 2 of 4 questions

Family & belonging67%matching

A mix of same and different

Same answer on 2 of 3 questions

One match is a worry or difficulty you both reported.

The future75%matching

Mostly matching answers

Same answer on 3 of 4 questions

Intimacy & boundaries83%matching

Mostly matching answers

Same answer on 5 of 6 questions

Filled: matching answersUnfilled: different answers

A match means the same answer choice, not necessarily the same feelings or reasons. You can also match on a worry or difficulty. Different answers don’t tell us who is right.

We leave out skipped, uncertain, not-applicable, or missing answers, and questions with different wording. We need at least two questions with answers from both of you to show a percentage.

Something worth keeping

You both say you often feel cared for. Alex appreciates the tea Sam makes after a long day. Sam appreciates Alex checking in before and after a stressful meeting. These are small things you already notice and value in each other.

The answers and context behind this

Connection & care · Shared context

Alex

Shared example of care

Shared context

“Sam makes me tea after a long day and remembers how I like it.”

Sam

Shared example of care

Shared context

“Alex checks in before a stressful meeting and asks how it went.”

These are background details or personal notes. They help explain the report but aren’t included in the percentage.

Connection & care · Questionnaire answer

Alex

Over the past two weeks, how often have you felt cared for by your partner?

Often

Sam

Over the past two weeks, how often have you felt cared for by your partner?

Often

Remembering the work is part of the work

What this might mean

Alex describes keeping track of school dates and the shopping list; Sam says they don’t see every step of that work. That may help explain why the same division of responsibilities feels less fair to Alex than to Sam.

The answers and context behind this

Everyday life & energy · Questionnaire answer

Alex

How fair does the current balance of parenting responsibilities feel to you?

Somewhat unfair

Sam

How fair does the current balance of parenting responsibilities feel to you?

Mostly fair

Everyday life & energy · Questionnaire answer

Alex

Over the past two weeks, how fair has the planning and remembering felt to you?

Somewhat unfair

“School dates and the shopping list tend to live in my head. I'd like someone else to notice what needs doing, not wait for me to delegate it.”

Wants to discuss: now

Sam

Over the past two weeks, how fair has the planning and remembering felt to you?

Mostly fair

“I thought the split was mostly fair, but I don't see every step. I'd like to take school messages and lunches from noticing through finishing.”

Wants to discuss: now

A break from an argument means different things

What this might mean

Alex needs quiet to be able to listen; Sam needs reassurance that the conversation will continue. You both prefer naming a time to come back, which may help make a pause easier for each of you.

The answers and context behind this

Disagreements & repair · Questionnaire answer

Alex

When a disagreement gets heated, what usually helps you stay able to listen?

A quiet pause alone

“Twenty quiet minutes helps me come back able to listen. I can say that I care and name a return time before I step away.”

Wants to discuss: now

Sam

When a disagreement gets heated, what usually helps you stay able to listen?

Reassurance before a pause

“I can handle a pause if I know we're coming back to it. Silence with no return plan is the part I find hard.”

Wants to discuss: now

Disagreements & repair · Questionnaire answer

Alex

After a disagreement, how often do you feel understood, even if you still disagree?

Sometimes

Sam

After a disagreement, how often do you feel understood, even if you still disagree?

Often

Disagreements & repair · Questionnaire answer

Alex

If you pause a disagreement, what return plan would help you most?

Agree a specific time to return

Sam

If you pause a disagreement, what return plan would help you most?

Agree a specific time to return

More free time, without losing financial security

What this might mean

Sam wants a shorter workweek while keeping the same home and family life. Alex wants six months of essential expenses saved first, so understanding what a shorter week would cost may help make the choice clearer.

The answers and context behind this

The future · Questionnaire answer

Alex

How worried are you that you want different things from the next few years?

Quite worried

“I worry that a shorter workweek might mean less security. I don't know which tradeoffs Sam has in mind.”

Sam

How worried are you that you want different things from the next few years?

A little worried

Money & security · Questionnaire answer

Alex

For a significant financial decision, what would you want to protect first?

A reliable buffer for essentials

“I want six months of essential expenses protected before either of us changes our working hours.”

Wants to discuss: now

Sam

For a significant financial decision, what would you want to protect first?

Time, health, or flexibility

“I want a shorter workweek, not a different home or family life. I want us to look at what we could afford before changing anything.”

Wants to discuss: now

Choosing an answer doesn’t commit either of you to doing anything. Either person can say no, skip a topic, or change their mind.

The two of you, chapter by chapter.

Each topic starts with what you answered, then a possible explanation and questions you could ask each other. If an explanation doesn’t fit your experience, you can set it aside.

The questions are optional. There’s nothing to complete, and neither of you owes an answer.

01 · Connection & care

A walk sounds good. So does one less thing to organize.

Same answer on 2 of 4 questions

You both often feel cared for. Right now, Alex would most like practical help or relief, while Sam would most like unhurried time together. You both like the idea of an evening walk.

What may be behind this

For Alex, the appeal is a walk without having to organize the next day. Sam says even fifteen minutes together sounds good. The walk could meet both wishes if Alex also gets a break from planning.

Questions you could ask each other

  • What helps you feel cared for at the end of a tiring day?
  • What would make an evening walk feel relaxing to you?
  • When you tell me you're struggling, what helps you feel understood?
The answers behind connection & care

Connection & care · Questionnaire answer

Alex

How well does your time together fit your current energy, health, and sensory needs?

A little

“By the evening I'm tired. A walk without having to organize the next day would help me feel close.”

Sam

How well does your time together fit your current energy, health, and sensory needs?

Mostly

Connection & care · Questionnaire answer

Alex

Over the past two weeks, how often have you felt cared for by your partner?

Often

Sam

Over the past two weeks, how often have you felt cared for by your partner?

Often

Connection & care · Questionnaire answer

Alex

What kind of closeness would you most like to make room for right now?

Practical help or relief

Sam

What kind of closeness would you most like to make room for right now?

Unhurried time together

“An evening walk together sounds good to me too, even if it's only fifteen minutes.”

Connection & care · Questionnaire answer

Alex

When you're struggling, how comfortable do you feel telling your partner?

Mostly comfortable

Sam

When you're struggling, how comfortable do you feel telling your partner?

Mostly comfortable

Back to your alignment overview

02 · Disagreements & repair

A quiet pause, with reassurance and a time to return.

Same answer on 1 of 4 questions

Alex says a twenty-minute quiet break makes it easier to listen again. Sam wants reassurance before a pause and finds silence hard without a plan to return. You both want to agree on a specific time to come back to the conversation.

What may be behind this

You both want to return to the conversation, but need different things during the break: quiet for Alex, reassurance for Sam. Agreeing on when to return may not be enough on its own. Alex feels understood after disagreements less often than Sam does.

Questions you could ask each other

  • What would you like me to say before we pause a disagreement?
  • What helps you feel I've understood you, even when we still disagree?
  • What kind of help would you want from someone outside our relationship?
The answers behind disagreements & repair

Disagreements & repair · Questionnaire answer

Alex

When a disagreement gets heated, what usually helps you stay able to listen?

A quiet pause alone

“Twenty quiet minutes helps me come back able to listen. I can say that I care and name a return time before I step away.”

Wants to discuss: now

Sam

When a disagreement gets heated, what usually helps you stay able to listen?

Reassurance before a pause

“I can handle a pause if I know we're coming back to it. Silence with no return plan is the part I find hard.”

Wants to discuss: now

Disagreements & repair · Questionnaire answer

Alex

After a disagreement, how often do you feel understood, even if you still disagree?

Sometimes

Sam

After a disagreement, how often do you feel understood, even if you still disagree?

Often

Disagreements & repair · Questionnaire answer

Alex

If you pause a disagreement, what return plan would help you most?

Agree a specific time to return

Sam

If you pause a disagreement, what return plan would help you most?

Agree a specific time to return

Disagreements & repair · Questionnaire answer

Alex

What kind of outside support would you like to use when relationship conversations are difficult?

Both personal and professional support

Sam

What kind of outside support would you like to use when relationship conversations are difficult?

A trusted friend or family member

Back to your alignment overview

03 · Everyday life & energy

The job starts before the lunch gets packed.

Same answer on 3 of 6 questions

One match is a worry or difficulty you both reported.

Alex finds the planning and parenting split somewhat unfair; Sam finds it mostly fair. You both only sometimes get enough time to rest without managing another task. Clutter also makes relaxing much harder for Alex than for Sam.

What may be behind this

The difference may be about counting the planning as part of the job, not just doing the task. Alex wants help remembering and noticing what needs doing, without having to ask. Sam says there are steps they don't see, and wants to handle school messages and lunches from start to finish.

Questions you could ask each other

  • What needs remembering or planning before a school lunch gets packed?
  • What would help you rest without keeping track of the next job?
  • Where does clutter most affect your ability to relax at home?
The answers behind everyday life & energy

Everyday life & energy · Questionnaire answer

Alex

How much does clutter affect your ability to relax at home?

A great deal

Sam

How much does clutter affect your ability to relax at home?

A little

Everyday life & energy · Questionnaire answer

Alex

How fair does the current balance of parenting responsibilities feel to you?

Somewhat unfair

Sam

How fair does the current balance of parenting responsibilities feel to you?

Mostly fair

Everyday life & energy · Questionnaire answer

Alex

Over the past two weeks, how fair has the planning and remembering felt to you?

Somewhat unfair

“School dates and the shopping list tend to live in my head. I'd like someone else to notice what needs doing, not wait for me to delegate it.”

Wants to discuss: now

Sam

Over the past two weeks, how fair has the planning and remembering felt to you?

Mostly fair

“I thought the split was mostly fair, but I don't see every step. I'd like to take school messages and lunches from noticing through finishing.”

Wants to discuss: now

Everyday life & energy · Questionnaire answer

Alex

How often do you have enough time to rest without managing another task?

Sometimes

Sam

How often do you have enough time to rest without managing another task?

Sometimes

Back to your alignment overview

04 · Money & security

A shorter workweek, with the essentials covered.

Same answer on 2 of 4 questions

Alex is a little worried about current bills or debt payments; Sam isn't worried. For a major financial decision, Alex would first protect money set aside for essentials. Sam would first protect time, health, or flexibility.

What may be behind this

The open question is what would make working less feel affordable to both of you. Alex names six months of essential expenses; Sam wants to see what you could afford before changing anything. Neither answer tells us what a shorter workweek would actually cost.

Questions you could ask each other

  • What would having six months of essential expenses covered mean to you?
  • What would you most want more time for in a shorter workweek?
  • Which spending decisions would you want us to talk through before acting?
The answers behind money & security

Money & security · Questionnaire answer

Alex

How worried are you about meeting your current bills or debt payments?

A little worried

Sam

How worried are you about meeting your current bills or debt payments?

Not worried

Money & security · Questionnaire answer

Alex

How comfortable do you feel discussing money decisions that affect you both?

Mostly comfortable

Sam

How comfortable do you feel discussing money decisions that affect you both?

Mostly comfortable

Money & security · Questionnaire answer

Alex

For a significant financial decision, what would you want to protect first?

A reliable buffer for essentials

“I want six months of essential expenses protected before either of us changes our working hours.”

Wants to discuss: now

Sam

For a significant financial decision, what would you want to protect first?

Time, health, or flexibility

“I want a shorter workweek, not a different home or family life. I want us to look at what we could afford before changing anything.”

Wants to discuss: now

Money & security · Questionnaire answer

Alex

How clear are the spending decisions you expect to discuss before acting?

Mostly clear

Sam

How clear are the spending decisions you expect to discuss before acting?

Mostly clear

Back to your alignment overview

05 · Family & belonging

Room for family. Room for the two of you.

Same answer on 2 of 3 questions

One match is a worry or difficulty you both reported.

You both say parenting commitments and time as a couple aren't fitting together very well. You differ on commitments to family, friends, and community: Alex says they mostly fit the time and energy available; Sam says they fit only a little.

What may be behind this

You both feel mostly comfortable setting boundaries around other people's involvement in your relationship. These answers don't name a particular family or social commitment either of you wants to change. There may be more to understand about which commitments matter most to each of you and where time feels tight.

Questions you could ask each other

  • Which commitments to family, friends, or community matter most to you?
  • What kind of time together would you like more room for?
  • What boundary with family or friends matters most to you?
The answers behind family & belonging

Family & belonging · Questionnaire answer

Alex

How comfortable do you feel setting boundaries around other people's involvement in your relationship?

Mostly comfortable

Sam

How comfortable do you feel setting boundaries around other people's involvement in your relationship?

Mostly comfortable

Family & belonging · Questionnaire answer

Alex

How well do your commitments to family, friends, or community fit the time and energy you have?

Mostly

Sam

How well do your commitments to family, friends, or community fit the time and energy you have?

A little

Family & belonging · Questionnaire answer

Alex

How well are parenting commitments and time for your relationship fitting together?

A little

Sam

How well are parenting commitments and time for your relationship fitting together?

A little

Back to your alignment overview

06 · The future

You both want clarity about work. Alex is more worried.

Same answer on 3 of 4 questions

You both want to understand how work and the rest of life will fit together. Alex is quite worried about possible differences in your plans for the next few years; Sam is a little worried.

What may be behind this

Alex worries that a shorter workweek could mean less security and doesn't know which tradeoffs Sam has in mind. Sam wants to work less while keeping the same home and family life. What that would involve is still open. You both say you don't want more children; talking about work doesn't require revisiting that answer.

Questions you could ask each other

  • What would a good ordinary day look like to you a few years from now?
  • What would you want to understand before deciding whether a shorter workweek could work for us?
  • What would you most want to keep about our home and family life if work changed?
The answers behind the future

The future · Questionnaire answer

Alex

Do you want more children in your future?

No

Sam

Do you want more children in your future?

No

The future · Questionnaire answer

Alex

What would you most like to clarify about your future together?

How work and life will fit together

Sam

What would you most like to clarify about your future together?

How work and life will fit together

The future · Questionnaire answer

Alex

How worried are you that you want different things from the next few years?

Quite worried

“I worry that a shorter workweek might mean less security. I don't know which tradeoffs Sam has in mind.”

Sam

How worried are you that you want different things from the next few years?

A little worried

Money & security · Questionnaire answer

Alex

For a significant financial decision, what would you want to protect first?

A reliable buffer for essentials

“I want six months of essential expenses protected before either of us changes our working hours.”

Wants to discuss: now

Sam

For a significant financial decision, what would you want to protect first?

Time, health, or flexibility

“I want a shorter workweek, not a different home or family life. I want us to look at what we could afford before changing anything.”

Wants to discuss: now

The future · Questionnaire answer

Alex

If children or more children are part of your plans, what timing feels right to you?

I don't want children or more children

Sam

If children or more children are part of your plans, what timing feels right to you?

I don't want children or more children

Back to your alignment overview

07 · Intimacy & boundaries

Affection doesn't have to lead to sex.

Same answer on 5 of 6 questions

Alex would prefer about the same amount of sexual contact; Sam would prefer more. You both say your current physical or sexual closeness mostly suits you and that you're very comfortable declining contact.

What may be behind this

Sam doesn't want affection to feel like a request for sex, and says more rest and time together would matter whether or not sexual contact changed. That note describes Sam's wishes; it doesn't tell us what Alex might want to change. Neither person's answer is consent, and either person can say no or pause.

Questions you could ask each other

  • What kinds of affection do you enjoy without any expectation of sex?
  • What kind of closeness feels welcome when you're tired?
  • How would you like me to respond when you say no or ask to pause?
The answers behind intimacy & boundaries

Intimacy & boundaries · Questionnaire answer

Alex

How often can you enjoy affection without an expectation that it will lead to sex?

Often

Sam

How often can you enjoy affection without an expectation that it will lead to sex?

Often

Intimacy & boundaries · Questionnaire answer

Alex

How comfortable do you feel declining physical or sexual contact?

Very comfortable

Sam

How comfortable do you feel declining physical or sexual contact?

Very comfortable

Intimacy & boundaries · Questionnaire answer

Alex

How comfortable are you with the way closeness or sex is initiated between you?

Mostly comfortable

Sam

How comfortable are you with the way closeness or sex is initiated between you?

Mostly comfortable

Intimacy & boundaries · Questionnaire answer

Alex

How well does your current physical or sexual closeness suit you?

Mostly

Sam

How well does your current physical or sexual closeness suit you?

Mostly

Intimacy & boundaries · Questionnaire answer

Alex

How would you like to communicate a pause during intimacy?

Plain words

Sam

How would you like to communicate a pause during intimacy?

Plain words

Intimacy & boundaries · Questionnaire answer

Alex

Compared with what feels right for you now, would you prefer less sexual contact, about the same, or more?

About the same

Sam

Compared with what feels right for you now, would you prefer less sexual contact, about the same, or more?

More sexual contact

“I'd enjoy more sexual contact, but I don't want affection to feel like a request. More rest and time together would matter to me either way.”
Back to your alignment overview

Your original answers & notes

34 questions and notes are listed below. These are the answers the report is based on, including where someone wasn’t sure, chose not to answer, or didn’t receive the same question.

Shared boundaries, notes & report limits

Boundaries you share

These are things you both said no to. You don’t need to change those answers or persuade each other.

Do you want more children in your future? You both answered: No.

The answers and context behind this

The future · Questionnaire answer

Alex

Do you want more children in your future?

No

Sam

Do you want more children in your future?

No

What this report can’t tell you

This is a starting point for reflection, not a diagnosis or a measure of relationship quality.

Alex and Sam’s answers and the explanations in this sample are fictional. Real reports use AI to suggest explanations based on the answers and notes a couple shares.

Answers describe a moment in time. The same choice can mean different things to each person, and different choices don’t mean you’re wrong for each other.

Connection & care (5)

Connection & care · Shared context

Alex

Shared example of care

Shared context

“Sam makes me tea after a long day and remembers how I like it.”

Sam

Shared example of care

Shared context

“Alex checks in before a stressful meeting and asks how it went.”

These are background details or personal notes. They help explain the report but aren’t included in the percentage.

Connection & care · Questionnaire answer

Alex

How well does your time together fit your current energy, health, and sensory needs?

A little

“By the evening I'm tired. A walk without having to organize the next day would help me feel close.”

Sam

How well does your time together fit your current energy, health, and sensory needs?

Mostly

Connection & care · Questionnaire answer

Alex

Over the past two weeks, how often have you felt cared for by your partner?

Often

Sam

Over the past two weeks, how often have you felt cared for by your partner?

Often

Connection & care · Questionnaire answer

Alex

What kind of closeness would you most like to make room for right now?

Practical help or relief

Sam

What kind of closeness would you most like to make room for right now?

Unhurried time together

“An evening walk together sounds good to me too, even if it's only fifteen minutes.”

Connection & care · Questionnaire answer

Alex

When you're struggling, how comfortable do you feel telling your partner?

Mostly comfortable

Sam

When you're struggling, how comfortable do you feel telling your partner?

Mostly comfortable

Disagreements & repair (4)

Disagreements & repair · Questionnaire answer

Alex

When a disagreement gets heated, what usually helps you stay able to listen?

A quiet pause alone

“Twenty quiet minutes helps me come back able to listen. I can say that I care and name a return time before I step away.”

Wants to discuss: now

Sam

When a disagreement gets heated, what usually helps you stay able to listen?

Reassurance before a pause

“I can handle a pause if I know we're coming back to it. Silence with no return plan is the part I find hard.”

Wants to discuss: now

Disagreements & repair · Questionnaire answer

Alex

After a disagreement, how often do you feel understood, even if you still disagree?

Sometimes

Sam

After a disagreement, how often do you feel understood, even if you still disagree?

Often

Disagreements & repair · Questionnaire answer

Alex

If you pause a disagreement, what return plan would help you most?

Agree a specific time to return

Sam

If you pause a disagreement, what return plan would help you most?

Agree a specific time to return

Disagreements & repair · Questionnaire answer

Alex

What kind of outside support would you like to use when relationship conversations are difficult?

Both personal and professional support

Sam

What kind of outside support would you like to use when relationship conversations are difficult?

A trusted friend or family member

Everyday life & energy (6)

Everyday life & energy · Questionnaire answer

Alex

How much does clutter affect your ability to relax at home?

A great deal

Sam

How much does clutter affect your ability to relax at home?

A little

Everyday life & energy · Questionnaire answer

Alex

How comfortable are you with your current expectations around messages, phones, and personal privacy?

Very comfortable

Sam

How comfortable are you with your current expectations around messages, phones, and personal privacy?

Very comfortable

Everyday life & energy · Questionnaire answer

Alex

How well does the balance of time together and time for yourself suit you?

Mostly

Sam

How well does the balance of time together and time for yourself suit you?

Mostly

Everyday life & energy · Questionnaire answer

Alex

How fair does the current balance of parenting responsibilities feel to you?

Somewhat unfair

Sam

How fair does the current balance of parenting responsibilities feel to you?

Mostly fair

Everyday life & energy · Questionnaire answer

Alex

Over the past two weeks, how fair has the planning and remembering felt to you?

Somewhat unfair

“School dates and the shopping list tend to live in my head. I'd like someone else to notice what needs doing, not wait for me to delegate it.”

Wants to discuss: now

Sam

Over the past two weeks, how fair has the planning and remembering felt to you?

Mostly fair

“I thought the split was mostly fair, but I don't see every step. I'd like to take school messages and lunches from noticing through finishing.”

Wants to discuss: now

Everyday life & energy · Questionnaire answer

Alex

How often do you have enough time to rest without managing another task?

Sometimes

Sam

How often do you have enough time to rest without managing another task?

Sometimes

Money & security (4)

Money & security · Questionnaire answer

Alex

How worried are you about meeting your current bills or debt payments?

A little worried

Sam

How worried are you about meeting your current bills or debt payments?

Not worried

Money & security · Questionnaire answer

Alex

How comfortable do you feel discussing money decisions that affect you both?

Mostly comfortable

Sam

How comfortable do you feel discussing money decisions that affect you both?

Mostly comfortable

Money & security · Questionnaire answer

Alex

For a significant financial decision, what would you want to protect first?

A reliable buffer for essentials

“I want six months of essential expenses protected before either of us changes our working hours.”

Wants to discuss: now

Sam

For a significant financial decision, what would you want to protect first?

Time, health, or flexibility

“I want a shorter workweek, not a different home or family life. I want us to look at what we could afford before changing anything.”

Wants to discuss: now

Money & security · Questionnaire answer

Alex

How clear are the spending decisions you expect to discuss before acting?

Mostly clear

Sam

How clear are the spending decisions you expect to discuss before acting?

Mostly clear

Family & belonging (3)

Family & belonging · Questionnaire answer

Alex

How comfortable do you feel setting boundaries around other people's involvement in your relationship?

Mostly comfortable

Sam

How comfortable do you feel setting boundaries around other people's involvement in your relationship?

Mostly comfortable

Family & belonging · Questionnaire answer

Alex

How well do your commitments to family, friends, or community fit the time and energy you have?

Mostly

Sam

How well do your commitments to family, friends, or community fit the time and energy you have?

A little

Family & belonging · Questionnaire answer

Alex

How well are parenting commitments and time for your relationship fitting together?

A little

Sam

How well are parenting commitments and time for your relationship fitting together?

A little

The future (6)

The future · Shared context

Alex

What would make this useful

Shared context

“I want less planning in my head and a clearer picture of the next few years.”

Sam

What would make this useful

Shared context

“I want to understand what Alex needs and make more time for us.”

These are background details or personal notes. They help explain the report but aren’t included in the percentage.

The future · Shared context

Alex

Chosen topics

Shared context

“Everyday life & energy, Money & security”

Sam

Chosen topics

Shared context

“Connection & care, Disagreements & repair”

These are background details or personal notes. They help explain the report but aren’t included in the percentage.

The future · Questionnaire answer

Alex

Do you want more children in your future?

No

Sam

Do you want more children in your future?

No

The future · Questionnaire answer

Alex

What would you most like to clarify about your future together?

How work and life will fit together

Sam

What would you most like to clarify about your future together?

How work and life will fit together

The future · Questionnaire answer

Alex

How worried are you that you want different things from the next few years?

Quite worried

“I worry that a shorter workweek might mean less security. I don't know which tradeoffs Sam has in mind.”

Sam

How worried are you that you want different things from the next few years?

A little worried

The future · Questionnaire answer

Alex

If children or more children are part of your plans, what timing feels right to you?

I don't want children or more children

Sam

If children or more children are part of your plans, what timing feels right to you?

I don't want children or more children

Intimacy & boundaries (6)

Intimacy & boundaries · Questionnaire answer

Alex

How often can you enjoy affection without an expectation that it will lead to sex?

Often

Sam

How often can you enjoy affection without an expectation that it will lead to sex?

Often

Intimacy & boundaries · Questionnaire answer

Alex

How comfortable do you feel declining physical or sexual contact?

Very comfortable

Sam

How comfortable do you feel declining physical or sexual contact?

Very comfortable

Intimacy & boundaries · Questionnaire answer

Alex

How comfortable are you with the way closeness or sex is initiated between you?

Mostly comfortable

Sam

How comfortable are you with the way closeness or sex is initiated between you?

Mostly comfortable

Intimacy & boundaries · Questionnaire answer

Alex

How well does your current physical or sexual closeness suit you?

Mostly

Sam

How well does your current physical or sexual closeness suit you?

Mostly

Intimacy & boundaries · Questionnaire answer

Alex

How would you like to communicate a pause during intimacy?

Plain words

Sam

How would you like to communicate a pause during intimacy?

Plain words

Intimacy & boundaries · Questionnaire answer

Alex

Compared with what feels right for you now, would you prefer less sexual contact, about the same, or more?

About the same

Sam

Compared with what feels right for you now, would you prefer less sexual contact, about the same, or more?

More sexual contact

“I'd enjoy more sexual contact, but I don't want affection to feel like a request. More rest and time together would matter to me either way.”